The Parent Institute
The mission of The Parent Institute is to encourage parent involvement in the education of their children. The Parent Institute publishes a variety of materials including newsletters, booklets, audio CDs, brochures, videos and presentation kits.
The Parent Institute is a division of NIS, Inc., an independent, private corporation founded in 1989 by educators with extensive experience working with public and private schools in the U.S. and Canada. Go here for more information: The Parent Institute.
All materials published by The Parent Institute are research-based. Topics for all materials we publish are first identified through scientific surveys of practicing education leaders to make sure the topics are relevant to educators' needs and of high priority interest. Then each publication is developed by professional writers using the best scientific research available. During the developmental stages and continuing through the final editing process, our editors consult with education experts and review the research to be sure that there is evidence that each program, practice or idea recommended is accurately described and actually works.
We present you one of their publications titled "Promote Respect with 3 C's" at Let's Talk Parenting page.
Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems.
In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:
Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.
Parents play a key role in preventing and responding to bullying. If you know or
suspect that your child is involved in bullying, there are several resources
that may help.
Promote Respect with 3C's
Respect is one of the most critical values you can teach your child. Being respectful will help your child get along with everyone around him. And teachers value respect in the classroom too. Teach respect with the three C’s:
Respectful people ask others for their viewpoints, feelings and opinions. Tell your child he may not always agree, but he should listen attentively and not interrupt.
Manners count. Please and thank you really are magic words. Don’t save them for special occasions. Practice them daily. And teach your child that simple gestures such as allowing someone to go first or holding doors
for others can go a long way toward earning respect in return.
A respectful person understands that it’s not “all about me.” Teach your child to be considerate of others and follow the Golden Rule by treating others with the same respect and kindness he wishes to receive.
Whether they do it consciously or not, children work hard to do what they believe is expected of them. So tell your child, and show him, what you expect—and you’ll get results. To make the most of your expectations:
• Choose carefully.
Make sure your expectations are reasonable. If your child has been getting D’s in math, don’t expect him to get an A+ on the test tomorrow.
• Show your child what you expect.
Go over expected behaviors that cover different places and situations—home, school, homework, shopping, visiting friends, etc.
• Be consistent, but flexible.
Don’t change your expectations just because you’ve had a rough day. But be ready to reevaluate and make changes if your expectations are not realistically within your child’s reach.
• Don’t forget to celebrate success.
Give praise when it’s due.“Your teacher tells me you were very kind to the new boy in your class. I’m so proud of you."
PARENT-HOME PARTNERSHIP BOOSTS ACHIEVEMENT
Parents sometimes feel that education is so important that it should be the job of educators. But teachers can’t do the job alone. Working together as partners with the school, you can help instill the desire for success in your child. To support your child’s learning:
• Provide resources at home.
You don’t need a lot of expensive equipment, but you should provide a quiet, well-lit place for your child to study. Having a few basic tools, such as pens, pencils, paper and a dictionary will make studying easier.
• Monitor homework.
Even if you don’t remember the math you studied in school, you can still help by making sure your child sticks to a daily homework schedule and completes all his assignments. Encourage your child to do his best.
• Stay in contact with the teacher.
Discuss your child’s academic progress. Talk about behavior concerns. Ask what the teacher has observed.
• Support school policies.
Read the school handbook. Discuss all the rules and behavior expectations with your child. You can help develop a well-disciplined child by working in partnership with your school.
RESPONSIBILITY IMPROVES WITH PRACTICE
A child who learns and accepts responsibility will do better in school and grow up to be a productive, responsible adult. It would be nice if learning responsibility happened overnight. But it’s a work in progress and it takes practice. Here are some things you can do to let your child practice responsible habits every day:
• Give your child an alarm clock.
Expect her to get herself ready for school in the morning.
• Establish a regular homework time.
This will make it easier for your child to be responsible for her schoolwork.
• Have your child pack his or her backpack and lunch.
Set a place by the front door where your child can place her backpack every night—ready to go with everything she needs for school the next day. Have her pack her lunch at night too. Don’t expect perfection. Remember that mistakes happen to everyone. Allow your child to experience the consequences of her mistakes—and she will learn important lessons about responsibility. If you’re always running to her rescue, she’ll only learn that she doesn’t have to take responsibility for anything. Remember that it’s just as important to reward responsible behavior as it is to comment on mistakes.
Last updated April 16, 2019